Hi MCESaint,
May you and your children have some peace today. It sounds like you're in a good place during a difficult time for your wife.
Your dad's words back when you shared your fabulous news were like throwing up a brick wall. As we each know better, we can do better. Part of my recovery is replaying moments like that in meditation and coming to it with a skill I have now. Kindness, firmness, hanging up a phone, walking away, whatever. It's been very therapeutic in transforming feelings.
Do you have plans for extra support for yourself this week? It's a great time to hit extra self-care, too.
Congratulations on keeping yourself and kid out of the chaos.
