You know, that's a good idea. I see free furniture on Craigslist all the time, we go to garage sales. I can make my own living room! That's exciting! Except there are spiders down there. There's a lot of stored stuff down there after 13 years, if you never hear from me again, it's because I'm buried under all that stuff lol
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trailmix 
You know what Wamama, this seems completely normal (I know you don't need me to say that but I just want you to know, since sometimes it's hard to get perspective when you are in the middle of it).
Your idea about the partially finished basement is probably spot on. Maybe that's something you could work on now in bits and pieces? Even if you don't actually move down there that could be your place?
Yes, certain expectations are entirely valid in any relationship, not just romantic ones. I guess an expectation that a recovering alcoholic is going to react in any particular way is not one that is realistic?
As Ophelia touched on, none of this is "normal".