The saddest thing I've learned since participating here is how much children really do know about their parents' drinking. My own mother is an untreated ACoA, and although generally a sweet person, one of the most controlling human beings I have ever known. Her entire personality was formed due her survival skills learned growing up in an alcoholic home.
I'm glad you honored your son's discomfort. I hope you give both your kids a hug and enjoy this new year!!