MCE...….at one time, my husband and I owned an Oxford House---a sober house (you can google it)….it was for men, and, many of them had families.
We owned it...we did not run it. But, we did have a lo of contact with the residents and the administration. the ones with family got to have passes to visit with family....
The average stay was a range between 6 and 18 months.....
I'm thinking that, maybe, a long stay in the sober house might give both of you an opportunity to get more clarity about what you would like for your future's...…..?