Whew! When I saw that you'd taken a step back I had a different perception on what your post was going to be about. You've got a lawyer brain, though, and that is a good thing. I will say this: I think you are handling this about as classy as you can. You know your wife better than any of us do.....I am optimistic things can work out if she will work her program and do what she needs to do. In the meantime, you're doing what you need to do. It's hard taking on all of the parenting responsibilities. Sometimes I get depressed and I will admit, my AH (if he's in a functioning enough place) will step up and do the dishes or swiffer the floor. I know what you're doing far surpasses that. It also sounds like you have compassion and love for your wife....not to the detriment of your children, though. I just want to give you a high-five on doing a great job.