"Hes retired. I think he is emotionally ******** in that he had an unhappy childhood and when he gets upset or angry now he resorts to his bedroom almost like he has been sent there for being naughty! He is emotionally adolescent. So you are not far off the mark. If l talk to him it is viewed by him as a scolding. He needs counselling for sure but he would never admit it."
Knowing this about him, have you considered what effect your approach
to his alcoholism and emotional immaturity is having on your relationship?