Originally Posted by
trailmix 
I think it doesn't really matter.
I'm going to imagine it might break through periodically. That doesn't mean they will do anything about it (as you have experienced).
Addiction is selfish.
I'm thinking that when someone sobers up (if/when they enter recovery) they might remember some of it and go ohhhhh that's what she/he meant.
That could be 20-30 years down the road. Maybe her venting will make her feel better temporarily.
I totally get venting making her feel better. She just seems obsessed with making him see her perspective and then he'll have some kind of epiphany and get sober. That ain't gonna happen. Maybe I'm just grouchy and frustrated. I feel bad for her. I was there. I kept thinking I could just explain it the right way he will see how he is hurting himself and everyone else and things will change. Still hasn't happened. I know she has to get there on her own.