Originally Posted by
MCESaint 
Trailmix - I understand what you mean better now. Yes, in the past there have been some consequences. After her last dwi 7 years ago, I made it a "condition" that she continue with an interlock device on her car.
Yes, basically I was spit-balling (to steal dandylion's term) about why she might be reacting the way she is. Not defending her or the situation or anything like that.
I get it. I thought that perhaps shedding some light on why she is reacting the way she is would help to perhaps lessen your anger and frustration (if anything can at this point).
I hear your anger and I don't blame you.
As for possibly having her back home with you all again, I also get that and no it doesn't sound strange. You are clear on how things must be, going forward, with the children and that will put you in good stead.