Congrats on your sobriety!
I was married 20 years, and even though I instigated the divorce, it was emotionally abusive, he stole money from me, we are still friends because we have teenage twins to raise. Makes it a hell of a lot easier to like him when I'm removed from the situation.
I burst into tears the other day because I miss what I never had with him. Probably the holidays doing it to me.
Hugs,