THIS!!! Bravo!
Actions matter. Words are...nothing. You can try to separate behavior all you want, but the reality is, the behaviors are what make...or break...a person...and in turn those that love them. It's heartbreaking. Can someone recover? Sure. The reality is not many are willing to put in that sort of work, for the rest of their lives. For those that are, they can become someone else. For those that cannot, they are stuck in addiction and that is who they have become.
Originally Posted by
Sasha1972 
I’m not sure there’s even such a thing as “who they [we] really are”. All that exists in the world is what we do. If we do bad things, that is what we become. There is no “real self” that exists apart from our actions.