Just wanted to say thanks friends. Your thoughtful comments have helped. Working away like this has also given time to reflect.
We FaceTimed last night and out of the blue he said, 'I'm worried about wasting your time. I'm all over the place right now.'
I told him the focus right now is on him getting well. He spent two nights in intensive care this past week, FFS.
When I am back we'll talk again and I want to say two things:
1. I will tell him that I will let him take the lead more about how much I help him. It was turning into me bringing him food and sorting out Dr appointments, he'd be happy but then he'd get annoyed and I felt like a stalker. Confusing. Maybe I should take a step back? Let him form a network?
2. Sorry if TMI but we need to cool it on the physical stuff. Especially if I'm then not going to hear from him for a week, and especially if no one else in his life knows about me so if he ends up in a coma or whatever, I would never know.