Wow, MCE - BRAVO!!! I've been documenting discussions, black-out episodes, etc., for the past 6 years. I also have NUMEROUS pictures of her passed out on the toilet, a $4000 repair bill for the car, pics of broken cabinet doors, etc. I wish she had put something in writing as well, that would have been the icing on the cake. But I think I have enough - and I think you do as well. It is amazing how we tend to forget some of the MANY things that happen. I think it's because there ARE so many things, and if we keep reliving them it brings us down even more. Sometimes I will look back on my journal and say, "Holy crap, I forgot about that!"
You have made a ton of progress, and I hope and pray that it all works out in your favor, and f not 100%, you should be able to get enough protection in place for DS to make things calmer for you, and safer for him. Good for you.