What FeelingGreat said. What A's plan to do, and what the TRULY do, are usually not in the same ballpark. I've heard some many proclamations and such to make your head spin!! How many times has she actually DONE what she said she would do, and kept it up?? Umm, that would be ZERO.
It also sounds like you have made up your mind that divorce is imminent, correct? if not, then thoughts of selling the house and such might be premature. As we all have said (numerous times), the first priority is DS - getting him home, getting him in daycare, and making sure that AW is not alone with him.