Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
It's a good realization.
It's like abused/battered women (and men) who stay because it's what they know. Or how people keep picking the "same" partners that remind them of their last one, or who are just like mom or dad - in the same dysfunctional but comfortable/predictable/chaotic way.
Yes, Bim, exactly.
I eliminated abusive people from my life but keep playing their role myself holding on to what is familiar.
Typing with one hand sucks.