While I know because you love him your first reaction is to help him thru this, the reality is that you can't help him thru this. Recovery is something he has to choose for him regardless of any circumstances in his life. You're being there to "help him thru this" will make no difference pro or con. Honey is right. Focus on yourself and your son. That's where your priority should lie. Your husbands recovery or lack thereof is his to deal with, good or bad.