well. I guess I'll just say thank you and leave it at that. since neither of those are acceptable options to me.
If I kick him out, not only does he have no place to go, but my children lose their father and I lose my husband, because without getting help, he will die.
If I sit back, and let him doe it "his way" he eventually loses yet another job, and once again, I'm left wondering how I'm going to afford a mortgage and all the bills.
so thank you to those who responded.