Welcome,
If someone came at me like this I would totally drink at them and most likely drink more!
I hope that is not the case with your husband, but I think most alcoholics would do this, it is how our brains work.
Someone has to WANT to be sober for THEMSELVES, not because they are being forced into something or sobriety will never work.
I know, I tried for years to get sober for my partner, never worked until I choose to be sober for ME!
I would suggest some Alanon meetings for you
Blessings,
DC