PS I should have added a couple other comments. It seems we have a lot in common. My partner and I do not live together full time. I couldn't handle it if we did as he also drinks while I try to abstain. He pushes this constantly and like your situation, he is unwilling to quit. He's gotten quite scary and quite frankly I am worried about the liability of his being on my property. I have been having nightmares lately about our relationship and need to deal with where I go from here. I would be fine without him. Hopefully you don't risk your financial soundness on your man. At our age, it's not easy to recover financially. Wishing you a clear head to know your heart and mind. There are worse things than being alone. I'm facing something of the same conundrum.