My parent has enabled my sibling for the past 30 years. she has lost her house, her retirement savings, and her ability to enjoy a stress free life. I have moved her into a subsidized apartment that she can afford, and still my sibling takes money each month from her limited social security check to pay for miscellaneous bills of his own.
Thousands and thousands of dollars have been taken away from my parent so that my sibling can enjoy a life of drinking and drugging. (I say "enjoy" because he has no intentions on getting well, he likes his lifestyle) I am the one who picks up the pieces, I am helping my parent while she helps my addictive sibling.
Now it is beginning to feel like I am also enabling the situation.