mamabear26

So far today has been a horrible day. I'm a wreck right now.

My cousin went with me to take DS7 to catechism. STBAXH was following behind us in his car. As we were getting ready to park I saw my STBAXH's female friend. She was parked right in front of the school with her kids in the car. He then parked in front of her and she drove off (no, her kids do not attend catechism. Saturdays are for the elementary children. Her kids are in high school.) I was in shock. I told my cousin to park somewhere else. DS7 has no idea whats been going on with his Dad seeing other women. My Mom arrived at the school. I told her that his female friend was parked in the front of the school. I was angry because I had made it perfectly clear to him that his "friend" has no business being around my children. We walked DS7 to his class. I helped my son find his seat. He was just lurking around. I wasn't going to leave until he left. I then told his catechism teacher whats going on and to please keep an eye on his Father if he does come around. She told me to talk to the director so I went and told her the same thing. The director wanted he looks like so I told her when I come back to pick DS7 and if he is there I would call her outside so she can see him. My mom pulled my STBAXH outside to talk to him. It was very obvious that it was a setup by both of them to be there at the same time knowing that I would be there with my son. My Mom told him "whats going, why is your "friend" coming around here. He responded with " I don't know what you are talking about." She said "you know exactly what I am talking. That woman has no business being around my daughter or the kids." She also told him that "she doesn't want the kids to be negatively effected by it." He said "okay." Then left.

My cousin went back with me to pick up DS7. That women was there again. It look like she was picking up a small child. She looked like she was in bad mood. I have never seen her at my church and have never seen her at the religious classes. I don't even know if she is Catholic. I signed DS7 out and his father was parked next to my car. I took DS7 to his car then left.

I have several safety concerns.

-Since June when I got to pick up kids. I have seen her pass by his parents house at 2pm while I am waiting outside. She has no business being there during the exchanges and is psycho for lurking around.
- There has been at least twice when I have seen her while my kids were in the car that she just stares in the car making dirty faces.
-She has a violent history of getting into physical altercations.
-Her parents are both drug addicts.
-She neglects her own children by leaving them by themselves overnight 3 to 4 nights out of the week.
-I have seen her maybe 2 times around my house. She knows where I live.

I do worry because I have been told by other people not to "mess" with her because they have seen her get into fist fights with other females. She does try to stare me down while I am driving with my kids. I get that vibe that she wants to start an issue. I worry about her trying to do something in front of our kids like start an argument or fight with me. I don't want to get into any type of physical fight with her. My mom's theory is that she is "insecure" because I am "younger and pretty than her."

I had never addressed all my concerns with STBAXH. I didnt want him to think that I was jealous or trying to cause issues between them. But I feel today was a setup. I feel like they both were trying to be there at the same time knowing that I would there with my son. I finally texted him and told him my list of concerns. He never responded. I also told him that if she ever tries to be inappropriate or aggressive to me or my kids. I will call the police on her.

I have been doing so good with keeping a peaceful tone but now seeing her around my kids catechism school is concerning for me. I always feel like I let things go with him then he tries to find a new way to push against the boundary lines.

I feel horrible. I just want things to be peaceful. I want my kids to be left alone. I want to be left alone. I want this horrible nightmare to go away. I do my best to shield my kids from all the bad decisions he makes. I don't know why he continues to try to make things so difficult. I need support right now and I'm not okay and have been crying all day. Positive words only please.