My drinking had completely warped my own sense of what's normal and what isn't. I sued to think that going out and drinking 5+ drinks or more, basically drinking to the point of sloppiness, was "normal." Long story short, my spouse drinks 4-5 drinks per year, and can take an hour to finish one of them. That's closer to normal than what I was doing.
It's actually been very eye-opening and empowering for me to discover what normal really is. Because if it's normal to drink rarely, and to fall asleep sober, and to have fun sober, then I can do those things too.