My ex and I are in the middle of a protracted and distressing divorce (for mew, her and our 2 adult sons). There is no hope of reconciliation. I drank for years- and was a horrible person. This all came to a peak 3yrs when be-c of booze I nearly burnt to death (accident- blackout, horrible story). My family abandoned me at that point.
I have to work just on me and give my family the privacy and respect due to them. If they come back and want to know me- now I am sober (2.5y) that would be wonderful, although I doubt it.
Stop drinking now. It only makes every problem worse. The problems are still there the next day- with a hangover. Stop for your own health and leave the world to deal with itself. Rehab, meetings, journal, here, GP and counselling are strategies I use constantly.
Support to you