Shredder...yeah, as Box just reminds us....this is definitely a place to take what you need...or what works, for you....and leave the rest...…
A forum, like this, is composed of so many different people...each, with their own ideas and styles.....not unlike the outside world....
To be honest, sometimes I tear my hair and shout at the computer screen...lol...
I soo get it, that you feelings were hurt.....and, you are very vulnerable, just now, I think.....I have been the same way, lots of times....it just frigging hurts and we cry...even if the content was, essentially correct.....
We are human, and we cry....
I am glad to hear that you are an empathetic person....that is an asset, in my opinion...(as long as we can be as empathetic to ourselves as we are of others...lol)…..
Try to let this dust settle....and do something kind to yourself, today....something self-soothing....
Tomorrow is a new day....and I hope you will feel a lot better....