I called the cops on my exah once and that was after 3 months of our marriage. He was aggressive and lay his hands on me. I was stupid enough to not leave then and give him 3 more years of my life. It only got worse. He held the grudge against me for calling the cops. Took his revenge in the most manipulative ways through the marriage all while making me feel guilty for calling the cops. Used my guilt against me in every way possible. Emotional and psychological abuse . It took its toll on me. I wish I had ended it that first time.