I like "Hanlon's Razor":
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
it is somewhat grandiose to assume that people are going out of their way to inconvenience
me. in any case, carrying a resentment only harms me; the perpetrator is usually oblivious & goes on their merry way unaffected. I don't see much point in giving other people free space in my head.
