Originally Posted by Anna

Yes, I think the best thing to do is to step back and focus on yourself. You can continue trying to make him do what you want, but is that how you want to live? Do you want to be always searching, questioning, not believing? Do you need to keep searching for hidden bottles when you and he both know they are there? You deserve more than that.

A boundary is completely enforcable--by you. If your boundary is not to be in the same room with someone who is getting drunk, you can leave the room. If your boundary is not to be in a car with a driver who has been drinking, you can find another way to get wherever you're going. It puts you in charge of yourself.