My exwf thrived off the drama/self pity that surrounded her addiction(s) and everyone involved. She 'got addicted' to the chaos and eventually addicted to rehab. Money was not an issue,but I was planning my 'attack' on the child custody front. She acted blindsided by my filing for divorce and 100% custody.."pu-puh-lease" was my response and i was granted everything I asked for in court. Your wife does not want to get better now. She may or may never want to get better. All you can/should do is protect your son and yourself. Seriously..imagine how your guy's lives would be without this very unneccessary,unwanted and unwarranted chaos she is imposing on you all. In a sense(reality of the current situation), you are allowing it to continually be a negative in both your and the boy's lives. 'Fight' for things that ARE in your control..not things that are not. If she wanted to 'get better' she'd be posting in the Newcomers/alcoholism forums here asking for help...not you.