Ask yourself this...
Where is my rock bottom? When is abusing our child enough? When am I going to say, enough is enough?
The only person who can help your AW is herself. She is the only one who has the magic button to stop this ride and get off. You have the ability to get yourself and child off any time. It will feel like you've just been thrown from a moving train but you will have the ability to pick yourself up and get your son the help you need to move on with life. Your son is only 14 years old. He can not do this himself. So I ask you, why don't you help this young man out and save yourselves from this trauma of alcohell?!