Originally Posted by
Michsm 
You blame yourself for making him unhappy at times? He is an adult and he controls his happiness, not you. I dealt with an angry and functioning alcoholic for 10 years. I recently left and can tell you that I am so much happier without all the chaos. Like others have said, leave now and don’t look back and yes even if he will be seeking help. You will have good days and bad days but time does heal. You deserve someone who will treat you better than this!
Brilliant you had the courage to leave him after 10 years.. Respect to you!!!
The 'functioning' part is what makes them seem 'normal' and not so bad... my B is functioning too... he's very good and making strong impressions on people. He's very articulate, knowledgable and charismatic... and works hard at his job... then comes home sad most of the time. And I think it's because of me.
He even gave me a lot of stick because I don't socialise enough...Because I don't want to go out at the weekends and party with him and his pals (who all love their drugs and booze)
It was like getting brainwashed into thinking I wasn't happy or fun enough. And yet I'm the one pursuing a career that makes me happy. and he is miserable in his job.
When you start writing things down it really helps to clarify things...
Thanks again for this forum.
The pain of LOSS still hits me hard.... but thank god for this support here.