it is hard NOT to want to lash out a the evil booze that is causing all the problems. except....the booze really isn't the PROBLEM....your AH's consumption of the booze is. millions of people have alcohol in their homes and their lives are not disrupted by what happens when it is consumed. and there are alcoholics who never have booze in the home and drink anyway.
it's the chaos, the disruption, the raging bull storming about the house. YOUR house. THIS is the problem. if they refuse to stop, what are WE to do? we can't make them stop. so we are left with some tough decisions. detachment only takes us so far. we have to consider our own emotional/mental/spiritual state of being.....if it's all making us crazy, what do we have to do to reclaim sanity?