Did you post that you are ACOA?
That will mess with the trusting yourself thing.
I figure if I've made XXX decisions in the past and they have led to pain and misery, then it makes sense to try the other way for a while.
Do you do any reading? Like self-help books or the Bible? Some good stuff, and it helps in the overcoming.
Staying away from pot-smoking women when you're in recovery? I'll go ahead and say, good call.