Originally Posted by
Lonewolf22 
I think you can be there for someone without enabling them. It is a tragedy to see people change so drastically!
I think if you are strong enough and maybe have the backing of other people you can still be there for her. I think when we think someone 'should ' change we burden ourselves with a lot of expectations and frustration.
Unfortunately your Mother has changed and if you can visit her without getting too emotionally involved in her depletion then why not? But if it is severely damaging to you too, you do have to take a step back inevitably.
I take it she isn't seeking help for it?
I still live with her, I don't have the sources to move out. I'm trying to find ways to deal with her, talking sense with her has become useless. My other family members live on other states and are too busy with life, so I'm pretty much alone.
She hasn't seeked help and it's clear she won't anytime soon. We tried to take her to AA several years ago, but she quit after several days.