Originally Posted by
lessgravity 
Feel for you. That sounds like a miserable thing to deal with.
But then you casually mention the fact that you smoke cigarettes in his face? Even as a drunk, I couldn't stand the smell or the presence of smoke. Your frustration with his drinking has no solid ground to stand on, with you blowing smoke his way every night.
I'm sure you know this, but doesn't appear to me to be a relationship that is fostering or valuing growth.
No, I don’t blow smoke in his face. I smoke outside only, alone. My original (poorly written) point is that he can’t stand the smell of cigarette smoke on me so therefore I shower before bed so he doesn’t have to smell the lingering smoke.