Originally Posted by Seren

Hello Angel,

Welcome back! Really, who knows the mind of an alcoholic except an alcoholic. He may or may not want to re-establish a relationship with you, but that doesn't mean you have to bite!

As you said, he is able to have any sort of conversation with your daughter now that she is an adult. You are also allowed to ask her not to let you know anything he says or asks about you...you have that right.

If it were me, I would explain to your daughter that while she is welcome to Facetime or have lunch with him and his son, whether or not your name comes up in conversation is something you don't need to know about because it just makes you too uncomfortable.

I am sorry, though. Sometimes it is just disconcerting know that someone else is talking about me...I understand.