I understand your pain. I have not written a long time!!!! I have been struggling with my alcoholic husband for the past 10 years. It is to the point that we(our family)sent him to dry out this past week. they only kept him overnight and said he was fine to go home.He said" i must of not been as bad as I said".He agreed to get help. Still working on the process to get him registered which the facility he is going to go to is a one that is strictly volunteer and i as the spouse can not register him. I am by his side as he talks these facility and I bite my tongue as he lies to them about his situation. He continues to get drunk and his family believes that he has quit. I don't have the heart tell them otherwise. My mind spins everyday. He says I lie about him and that he is trying so hard. He is a closet alcoholic and has good intentions about getting better but alcoholism is so absorbing that he can't handle the pain without drinking. In the past 10 years he calls in sick or takes vacation and all he does is drink till he passes out and gets up and does it all over for days on end. I am so stressed. I really thought this time he would want the help but I feel in my heart he is only going thru the process to satisfy his family and make it look like his is going to get the help.He blames me for everyone at his work and the public knowing that he is going to treatment. He feels that everyone will treat him differently. He is a type of person that hangs on to anything bad that has happened to him since he was a child .i try to talk to him about his situation but he just clams up and says he doesn't want to talk about it .
He is going to AA.. when he feels like it and says it helps.? I don't believe that as he continues to drink before the meetings and the days after the meetings.
Sorry for the long message.