Originally Posted by
Zukunft 
I’m still being called out as not being honest or full of youknowwhat. More belittling. I know this balling and disbelief comes from denial, self frustration, sadness and anger of the whole situation (not directed at me) but it is blocking the progress. X
Sorry to sound blunt here, but would you keep seeing a person who started this behavior the first date? You'd probably run like hell, and rightfully so!
As for where it "comes from," so what? Sounds like you are making excuses for him.
We all go through struggles in life. This does not give us the right to inflict damage on someone else.