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Old 08-02-2018, 09:53 AM
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Originally Posted by wildflower70 View Post

This is exactly it....i have been begging for her love since I was a little girl. I don't think she is capable of giving me that love.

This is what I must accept, and move on.

Thank you all for your kind words.....DAY 1
you have been her hostage long enough, wildflower. good to see ya starting the process of breaking free. it would be wise to look into setting some boundaries and what you will do if those boundaries are crossed.

something you should seriously start doing:
any time youre by a mirror, look at yourself in it.
NOT at your hair. NOT for dust bunnies on your shirt/blouse.
right into your own eyes.
and say," i love you today."
do that every time youre near a mirror. keep doing it until you "get it."

also, work on actions that show you love yourself, which putting them boundaries in place would be one action of that.

ya sure as hell dont deserve that crap from family or anyone- they are very sick people and you can kill yourself trying to meet their expectations.
crazy how we can do that- bend over backwards to meet the expectations of others, yet our own expectations of ourselves?
dont even think about em.
either way, there IS a solution for everything.
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