I was never too keen on people talking down to/about me. Felt like being punched in the face,so I was a 'yes man' instead. When I used those as excuses for MY drinking, I was punching myself in the face and that got me nowhere in MY life. While getting/staying sober I learned that's MY #1 responsibility. Nobody else is going to get/keep me sober,but ME. No one 'makes me' drink,but ME. I learned to own MY actions and what actions of other's I'm willing to accept in MY life. Blaming others and even our own pasts is a pointless venture. If I know something is a problem past or present, it is up to ME to take action towards fixing MYSELF. Be it meetings,therapy,posting here,ect..It all falls on ME to do something about it.