Old 08-01-2018, 06:49 AM
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Originally Posted by AlericB View Post
I wonder if it stems from the fight or flight response where if someone comes running towards you wishing to see the colour of your insides you don't stand around thinking "Oh I can't decide what to do" - you very quickly decide to either stay and fight or run as fast as you can!
could well be. there's clearly an evolutionary advantage in not vacillating & in making a binary decision in the moment when we feel threatened. what has evolved less well is not re-evaluating the decision once the immediate perceived threat - usually something less serious than being eaten by a tiger - has passed.

the A-B-C tool encourages us to examine the basis of our response, either before we respond if we're able to catch it, or to circle back afterwards if not. with practice & repetition it can be possible to recondition our unhelpful responses, even those we might consider to be intrinsic to ourselves.
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