It's when you look to an addict for those feelings that you become disappointed. MOST times, they will continue to play the blame game in their own head. This means, you don't get the sorry and recognition you deserve. However, you will come to a point you don't need that from him. At least I did. I came to realize my XAH believes this himself, and if he stops believing that, it would make it difficult to live with himself, and he sure does not want that.
I learned to expect NOTHING from my XAH, and that' s what I normally get. I have found to find validation in myself for my feelings.
Big hugs because I realize it's a painful journey.