Old 07-26-2018, 07:33 AM
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dwtbd
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Congratulations again on your decision , from here on out it gets better. It is mostly a mind game now and a very winnable one at that.

Learning to ignore AV comes from learning to identify and separate from It. To bolster your own resolve in your 100% confidence level in your ability to remain abstinent getting comfortable with flipping the AV's perspective will help highlight its twisted logic and instantly defeat it.

You said it will be harder to not drink because /when you are at work you can't drink. Sure you could have ,but you didn't and now don't. Your ability to recognize the possible consequences of imbibing while at work was/is the justification the AV used to twist that into setting up the conditions under which you would then agree to recognizing the proper conditions for imbibing , the times you can/could drink. Which eventually lead to being tricked into assuming that when 'can' situations are in place , not drinking is almost impossible , basically inevitable, or at the very least very hard not to do.

The most powerful Jedi- mind -trick is to flip that on its head, acknowledge that you can drink and get plastered whenever , whereever, but You Don't.

Being at home where you can drink and then not drinking is only dangerous or difficult if not drinking is predicated on the false assumption that there is an alternative where/when you can't.

If your ability to remain abstinent is beyond your control , except when you 'can't'
like at work , then the cognitive dissonance the feeling of having your resolve shaken in the face of a 'can situation' is useful against your better judgement.

Smash that illusion of cognitive dissonance, you were/are without doubt, able to not drink at work in reality regardless the untrue condition . You Don't , can ? can't? doesn't matter one iota when you Don't , yeah?
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