Originally Posted by
dwtbd 
Drinking being a massively bad idea was never a reliable impediment for me.
I could always/mostly figure a way around the massive-ness of the wrong-ness. I could negotiate and bargain and ultimately agree with my AV and have more drinks.
Ignoring the AV means I had to remove all the qualifiers massive/small , good/bad no matter, no more drinks.
I’ve noticed that just thinking about not drinking doesn’t cut it. I need actionable steps in order to see that through. All qualifiers are gone for me. I’ve noticed that I sometimes will think, “in the future, I can have just one” but I shut that voice down immediately and tell it No! I’m hoping that my escape plans (I have several right now) and a hopefully supportive husband will get me through the night.