I am in a similar situation. My 7 month sober AH and I still live together and it is very rough to say the least.
I also know there is a lot of truth in the words “more will be revealed”. In my case my husband and I had slowly started to do stuff together again; during this time he still displayed disrespect toward me and I ignored the red flags AGAIN! How could I be so stupid?
Last week more was revealed in that I found out he is on an online dating site.
Everything, and I mean everything is blamed on me. He is a master manipulator and has been gas lighting since day one. I am surprised I held onto ANY of my sanity!
Well I am sane now and trying to get myself where I need to be! And stop reacting to him.
Good luck, ultimately it is your decision to go or stay but don’t make it a reaction is what I would suggest. What do YOU need to be happy and at peace? Once that’s identified then go after it!