I'm glad you made it through unscathed, Gabe. Each time we make it over one of these hurdles we grow stronger.
You're right - the romantic image of a nice, civilized glass of wine doesn't live up to expectations. We imagine a warm, relaxed feeling & being in control. A bottle of wine later, all our good intentions are out the window. Later, we're filled with remorse. I found that the temptation lessened greatly after a few months.