Thank you for all the warm wishes. What is a court advocate, I have my attorney is it someone else? I have actually thought about asking some of my friends to be there they absolutely will show up for me if I ask. All of this is shaking my foundation of doing the right thing, taking the high road will pay off but it seems to be causing me an extraordinary amount of pain, while AH is slugging along in the ditch happy as a clam spending a ton of money on booze, dating etc.