Originally Posted by
dawnrising 
I guess the one good thing is that the kids and I are no longer on the ride.
I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It's a sad truth that divorce is a stage of separating ourselves from our spouses for good. It's a long journey with some very hard stages, but keep your eyes on the destination.
I know some responders here say it doesn't matter what others think of you, but sometimes that's a bit unrealistic. The truth tends to come out over time though, and if his friends and family aren't completely blind I'm sure they have an idea of what he's really like.
In a year or two, when it's over, you will start to make real progress.