Valuable discussion - thanks, Cotwo.
Speaking only for myself - I've found there have been several stages. In the beginning months I was absolutely terrified of relapse, since I had practically destroyed my life. I clung to every bit of advice, did everything that was suggested. As I grew more confident & began to trust myself a bit - I relaxed a little. Remaining vigilant is imperative - & we all have our own way of doing that. SR has been enough for me - and I'm 10+ years sober. I know others who feel a regular AA meeting is necessary. Drinking/not drinking was on my mind constantly in the beginning - but rarely does it cross my mind these days except for when I'm here.