What if my problem is just someone trying to control everything around him???
The good thing is you have 32 posts of yours to go back and read and help you remember why exactly you came here in the first place LivinginLV.
I was a guy trying to control everything and everyone and every interaction round him - but I was/am also an alcoholic.
Its very normal to be resentful of drinkers for a while - it's great mind fodder for our inner addict/AV/Beast to work with.
Things will get better. The more I built a sober life I loved, the less what other people did (or drank) worried me.
In the meantime tho - do you have to sit in the same room as your husband when he's drinking?
'grats on 53 days too - awesome
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