Thank you for your replies. Waiting 3O days gives him time to string up some more excuses , and it's been a monthly occurrence of him stumbling home drunk Late at night sometimes 5am. I think he needs a wake up call and I need this stressful situation out of my life. I love him, but not under these conditions. I just went thru his phone and saw his credit card purchases he was at the bar at 4pm and he told me he was at work and meeting up with a friend to go to dinner at 8. His friend actually never showed up. These lies are not anything new. He does this ALL The time. It's disrespectful and it makes me sick to see him this drunk. He is 43. And I'm wasting my life waiting for him to clean up his act. I think it's time he sees what it's like to be a drunk without a home.