It honestly could take a long, long time to repair the damage caused in your relationship. Healthy communication is key and if contempt and stonewalling have become the norm you're in murky waters. Trust can be re-built but it will take time and effort from both of you. I don't say that to be a downer but so that by managing your expectations in the early days you'll set yourself up for less disappointment. It's also why you really do need to separate your sobriety from her.. Who are you doing this for? You or her? Best to get clear on that now.